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Hypnosis can help low self esteem

Low Self-Esteem?
How do you see yourself?

Self-esteem is a term that is commonly used. But what does it actually mean? The word ‘esteem’ comes from a Latin word that means ‘to estimate’. So, self-esteem is how you estimate, or regard yourself.
If you want to check whether your own levels of self-esteem are healthy, try asking yourself these questions.

  • Do you dislike yourself?
  • Do you think that you’re inadequate compared with others?
  • Are you shy?
  • Are you lacking in confidence?
  • Do you find it difficult to express yourself in company?
  • Do you feel you don’t deserve to be happy?
  • Do you feel that other people tend to dislike you?
  • Do you feel that your opinion doesn’t matter to other people?
  • If you do well at something, do you tend to put it down to luck, rather than feel pleased with yourself?
  • If you do badly at something, do you believe it’s all your fault?
  • If you make a mistake, do you reject the idea that you’re only human and feel furious and unhappy with yourself?
  • Do you find it hard to say ‘NO’?
  • Do you find it hard to take criticism from other people?
  • Do you find it hard to criticise someone to their face?
  • If you feel angry, or hard-done-by, do you tend to keep quiet about it initially, but later erupt and really lose your temper?
  • In bad relationships do you find it difficult to pluck up the courage to leave?

People with low self-esteem find it hard to answer “No” to all or most of the above. Are you are one of them?

Low self worth..

Low self-esteem or no self-esteem is arguably the most common cause of social anxiety, fear of failure and loss of motivation. Left untreated, diminished self-regard and limited self-worth can lead to depression, isolation, despair, and even suicidal thinking. People with low self-esteem tend to self-sabotage. They lack the mentally resources to be able to follow through or achieve their goals and tend to procrastinate. They often have a very negative, critical inner voice.

Why is everyone better than me?

People who have an appropriate value of themselves mostly cope with life’s problems better than people who don’t. They tend not to stay in bad relationships  because they have the confidence to know that they would be better living alone than with someone who is damaging them or their morale.  They rarely develop addictions to drink or drugs  or get deeply depressed either.

Of course, they have their difficulties, just like we all do. But they are better equipped to survive them than individuals who have insufficient regard for themselves.

Or are they?

Interestingly, a lot of men and women who appear confident – particularly in their careers – actually have quite low self-esteem when it comes to valuing their basic selves. This is tough on them, because no one suspects that they are insecure underneath or that they need help.

A good way to start improving your self-esteem is to acknowledge that you are special – because there’s no one else quite like you.

Not only are your fingerprints and DNA different from everyone else’s (unless you have an identical twin), but your mind, and how it thinks and operates, is totally your own. This means that out of 7 billion people in the world, you are a one-off. So if nature has bothered to make you unique, don’t you feel you should accept that you’re important and also that you have as much right as anyone else to be on this planet?

Accentuate the positive

Often we make ourselves unhappy because we go over and over mistakes we have made. But we can improve our self-esteem if we re-think the things we believe we have done wrong or badly.

For example, one of my clients has to give presentations at work. He used to be very critical of his performance and would lose sleep afterwards over the tiniest of errors. But now, he writes an account of each presentation shortly after he’s given it and only writes about the things that went well. He doesn’t need to write about the bad things – they will stick in his memory and he will try hard not to repeat them – but he will forget the good things unless he writes them down. *

 Building Self-Esteem with Hypnotherapy

It is not always easy to make changes by yourself but help is always at hand. As a clinical hypnotherapist, I treat clients using a variety of hypnotic suggestions, visualisations and NLP techniques to create a positive mindset and mental attitude about oneself*.

* DISCLAIMER  Even though I have a high success rate with my clients, success cannot be 100% guaranteed as results can vary from individual to individual.